I Took a Pregnancy Test Last Night

As you may have read in my post “5 Reasons I Want an Only Child“, I want an only child. My husband and I have a very clear and determined idea of the lifestyle we want, as well as the lifestyle we want for our son. (You can read more about our decision in that post.) 

After a week and a half of waiting for the inevitable cycle of the month, I started getting odd symptoms. I was nauseous around 2 p.m. everyday (just after my 2nd cup of coffee), which is exactly how I felt when I realized I was pregnant with Binky baby. I was also emotional to the point of Broadway dramatics, on the verge of the Niagara falls spewing out of my face at any moment. For any woman who has experienced pregnancy, these are tell-tale signs that you’re going to be an absolute mess for the next 9 months. (Is it just me or do women who love pregnancy seem to be mystical creatures that only ever exist in books and movies?)  My husband and I were both convinced that I was pregnant, so he went on a CVS run. While my husband was picking up a pregnancy test, I was laying in bed with my son, thinking about the changes that would come with another child…changes that we just didn’t feel were right for our family. 

I took a pregnancy test last night

While the pregnancy test was negative, I felt like the experience gave us a sincere affirmation about our desires and confirmation that we’re making the right decision. …for us. With all of the pressure to have a second child, it was a great experience to face our own emotions in that situation. We are assured that we want an only child.

I know how blessed I am for my fertility and for the fact that I would even question becoming pregnant with an IUD. I know women out there are suffering through infertility and the void of not having their own sweet baby bundle inside of them. In a way, I hope the lack of a growing babe in my tummy can somehow mean that another mama gets to experience it instead.

For our family, we are celebrating a negative pregnancy test so that we can continue growing in the ways that we planned and hoped.

Do you want an only child? Did you have a surprise second pregnancy? Have you had an experience that assured you of your decision?! Comment below!

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17 Comments

  1. August 17, 2015 / 5:54 pm

    Phew I was sweating!
    Binky baby #2?!???

    I love my son with every single speck of me, but pregnancy& labour! (He didn’t even give me a break in the final hours that bugger) were the absolute WORST time of my life. It makes having more children such a difficult decision, chances are my pregnancies will be similar and I’m so afraid. Eeekkk

    • August 17, 2015 / 6:49 pm

      Haha omgsh, YOU were sweating?! Imagine me!!! I genuinely did not like being pregnant, either. I would have had a wonderfully healthy birth, but they induced me and rushed my body which cause more pain and effort than there should have been. I do think that has an effect on our decision, too! I’ve heard that some people have completely different experiences, so keep your hopes up if you do decide to have another!

  2. August 17, 2015 / 5:55 pm

    Short answer: I’m not sure. I’m just not sure. Elli bean may be an only!

    • August 17, 2015 / 6:47 pm

      …and, honestly, some of it is up to chance, isn’t it! 😉 That’s how it was with Owen, which we felt was truly destiny.

  3. August 17, 2015 / 6:26 pm

    From another perspective – I’m an only child (I’m 35 now) and always loved it! Still do, I’m very close to my parents. Good for you for knowing exactly what you want. Don’t let society make you feel like you HAVE to have another child. Best wishes!

    • August 17, 2015 / 6:46 pm

      Annie, it’s so great to hear form an only child! 😀 I was an only child until almost 12, which I think played a huge role in my leadership strengths. I love that you mention that you’re close to your parents, because I love the idea of being there for my son with no restrictions and I hope he appreciates our ability to do so. Thank for commenting! :*

  4. August 17, 2015 / 6:35 pm

    You and I are totally on the same wavelength on the whole “not wanting to be pregnant” thing… well at least to some extent! I have not yet had my first child and to be honest, I don’t even want to think about having a child right now. Thankfully I haven’t had anyone asking “so when are you going to have a baby??” and seeing as I just celebrated my 26th birthday, I’m somewhat shocked by this. I have a feeling the questions are going to be coming soon, and I honestly don’t know what to say when people DO ask. I’m just not ready!!

    • August 17, 2015 / 6:44 pm

      I hope you never feel pressured to rush into parenthood – it’s too raw and life-changing to jump into before you’re ready. I try to remind people that your friends and family know how wonderful the experience of having a child is…and they want that for you…they want you to have a wonderful experience…even if they are a bit pressuring about it. 😉 I often respond with, “Well, I have 10+ years to change my mind!,” with a big, fat smile on my face. 😉 I saw THE best response to ANYTHING – “Why do you ask?” Imagine the struggle of finding a response to THAT! 😀 I do understand the societal “normal” of having children shortly after marriage AND having 2-3 children, but people just have to accept that we aren’t all normal. Haha!

  5. August 17, 2015 / 6:39 pm

    I’m so glad things worked out the way you wanted/planned! I love that you feel so strong about what you want and that you and your hubs are on the same page!! Thanks for sharing!

  6. August 17, 2015 / 8:15 pm

    I am one of those weird women who loved being pregnant, even though I lost over 10 lbs with both of my pregnancies the first trimester and hated life the last 6 weeks. Labor with my son was miserable, 36 hours and 3 hours of pushing. Our daughter was a planned surprise. We knew we were going to have another child, but we weren’t planning on it being so soon. We found out 4 days after our sons first birthday we were pregnant. I want one more, well I think I do but my husband is dead set on no more. We have one of each and he is fine with that, even though at first he wanted 3. I don’t feel that at 27 I am comfortable getting my tubes tied. I told my husband I would at 30 because I don’t want any more kids after then.

    • August 17, 2015 / 9:02 pm

      It’s wonderful to hear from a mama who loved pregnancy! If I loved pregnancy, I think I’d have, like, 5 kids! 😀 You know, 2 seems to be the magic number lately! Y’all will come to a decision together.

  7. August 17, 2015 / 9:19 pm

    I’m glad it worked out the way you hoped! While I want multiple kids, I totally understand why someone would only want one. You do what you feel is best!

  8. August 17, 2015 / 9:23 pm

    I’m glad everything worked out, and you got confirmation of your decision. We have 3 now, and we know we are done too.

    • August 17, 2015 / 9:37 pm

      Thank you! I definitely appreciate the different types of families!

  9. August 18, 2015 / 8:27 am

    For a while after having my daughter I didn’t think I wanted another… I just couldn’t imaging nothing another baby as much as her and not giving her all of my attention. That faded though and I knew I wanted more again, but wanted to spread them out, but then found out I was pregnant again haha! Anyways I think everyone should just do what works for them! If you want no babies – cool! If you want 7 – cool!

  10. August 27, 2015 / 9:46 pm

    “Is it just me or do women who love pregnancy seem to be mystical creatures that only ever exist in books and movies?” — ahah! So I LOVED being pregnant the first time around. I wasn’t very sick, and once I hit 12-14 weeks it was a breeze until the last anxious few days of waiting. I was literally that woman that every other pregnant women really hates, because I just loved it (I tried hard not to show my love too much, because I knew I was odd for loving it.)

    This time, though? I didn’t start liking being pregnant until around 30 weeks, and I haven’t enjoyed it much at all. I’m much more anxious to get to the newborn stage, because I do love newborns a lot. It’s kind of hilarious to me how SO different my two pregnancies have been, and how I KNEW that this one was a girl just because the pregnancies were like night and day. 😉

    I want five kids at least, so I’ll make up for your only wanting one! I’m so glad, just for you and your husband and your strong desire to only have one, that your test was negative.

  11. September 7, 2015 / 12:26 pm

    We are a “one and done” family as well! I strongly disliked being pregnant, even though I did not really have any problems whatsoever. And the baby phase was not one of my favorites – the thought of doing all that again just feels impossible! I love our little family and even though I have pangs sometimes of feeling like my daughter would make an amazing big sister, I’m happy with what we have. Everyone’s got judgment about it, but you know what? It’s my family, not anyone else’s, so I don’t have to listen to it!